Fear is a pretty big liar. I know because I’ve heard its voice many a time. It tells you that you can’t do it. It tells you that the worst thing you can imagine isn’t really the worst. It tells you that you are alone.
When I was five it told me I wouldn’t have any friends.
When I was eight it told me I would never have siblings.
When I was twelve it told me I could not sing.
When I was fourteen it told me I’d never be accepted.
When I was sixteen it told me I’d never have a boyfriend.
When I was eighteen it told me I couldn’t make it on my own.
When I was twenty it told me I wouldn’t make the grade.
When I was twenty-two it told me I didn’t have what it takes.
When I was twenty-four it told me I was unlovable.
When I was twenty-seven it told me I would never reach my dreams.
When I was thirty it told me I would always be alone.
When I am thirty-two it tells me all of the above (and more)… daily.
I have a choice on what I listen to and what I allow to influence my life. I daily have to make the decision that fear does not get to have the final say in my life. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it’s loud. Yes, sometimes it can appear as truth. Yes, sometimes if feels impossible to hear anything else.
Just because fear speaks, doesn’t make it truth.
You (and I) are responsible for what we choose to allow in our lives and what we choose to confront.
Someone wonderful told me recently that confronting is simply choosing to face. To turn around and face head on the thing that has been chasing you all along. To plant your feet and believe that you are not alone in that moment. Believe that you have what it takes.
Today, let’s commit to confront our fear. I can promise you the voice will come. It will tell you that you are not enough. It will tell you that you don’t have what it takes. It will tell you any number of things, but I’m here to tell you. It’s not the truth.
It’s only when you choose to face your fear that you realize it’s been powerless all along and it is only then, that you can experience true freedom.
Photos : Lauren Modny Photography
Styling & Creative Direction : StartCloseIn & Piccadilly
Model : Ashlynn