My dad used to tell me that life starts to get really good in your 30s. I never really understood until I passed the mile marker myself. Now I can honestly say that you couldn’t pay me to go back to my 20s. I know “supposedly” I’m supposed to want to freeze time at 29 and celebrate that birthday for an eternity, but I don’t buy it. I’m a few years into my 30s and..
I FREAKIN love it.
It’s like I could exhale a deep breath when I reached my 30s. Suddenly all the striving and trying to justify my existence in the world that marked my 20s ceased.
Did I magically figure it out? Umm… no.
It’s just that there’s this sense of purpose and peace that has settled in. I know myself better. I’m more comfortable with who I am. I’m not as scared to speak my mind. I’m less afraid of what others think of me (still not immune, but it’s better). I’m excited about where I am in life (even if I don’t totally know where that is). As my dad promised, life is just getting good.
So to all my sisters in your 20s, enjoy the ride! Live with abandon. Go on the adventures. Just know that the party really gets started in your 30s. There’s no ticking time bomb. Your life doesn’t stop at 30. It just keeps gets better. Can you imagine if it’s this good in your 30s, how much more amazing it will be in your 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond?
“The ways of right-living people glow with light; the longer they live, the brighter they shine.” Proverbs 4:18
BREAK OUT THE SUNGLASSES BABY!
There are days that the urge to give up is overwhelming. Throwing in the towel and quitting seem like the only logical option. It can feel like taking the next breath or the next step is just too much to handle. Problems loom and seem to block out the light of hope. It can feel like everything in life has joined forces with the express purpose of ensuring you never succeed…ever.
Those days suck.
Like for reals, they are the worst.
I unfortunately am not immune to those days. They happen more frequently than I would like but over the years there’s a couple of things I’ve realized and have to remind myself of frequently.
1. Those days are just…days. Even though sometimes they string together and feel like a never-ending trial. The truth is they will end. There will be a better day. You will succeed. The sun will shine again. (cue: Annie)
2. You have what it takes. You have to believe it. Even if you don’t feel like it. You have what it takes. Tell yourself that…in the mirror…out loud…every day. It will help.
3. Baby steps are still steps. Just keep moving. They may feel like the smallest improvements, but every step counts.
4. You’re not alone. That’s it. You’re not. Ever.
5. The urge to quit is usually the greatest right before you are about to succeed. Things are about to change. Don’t give up too soon. So many people miss out because they stop too soon. Hang on just a little longer. (click on the link for one of my favorite songs)
So today, if you feel like quitting, I hope this helps. Please know that I’m praying for you. You’re not the only one that feels this way. I’ve been there many times (as recently as last week). Things will get better. If it feels like the urge is intensifying, know that change is around the corner. There is so much good in your future.
Today is a new day. Today has never before happened. It’s fresh. It holds possibilities.
Your history doesn’t have to define today. Just because you did something before doesn’t mean you have to do it today. Just because you never could do something before doesn’t mean you can’t today.
Just because something was too hard before doesn’t mean that today you can’t do it.
You can do hard things.
You can face the fear.
You can put on your big girl panties.
You can silence the lies.
You can overcome the obstacles.
You can have the conversation.
You can stand up for yourself.
You can fight the battle.
You can set your boundaries.
You can defend your worth.
You can be the boss.
You can decide.
You can go for it.
You can do it.
Today is a new day.
When I was little I dreamed about being all grown up and living on my own in a house that looked a lot like the castle from Candy Land.
I used to dream about NEVER having to go to school again.
I used to dream about living with my best friends, singing, traveling the world, and starting my own business…
This is the crazy part though. It’s happening you guys! Even on the most stressful days when I can’t tell which way is up, I’m reminded that I once dreamed about these moments. I couldn’t be more overwhelmed with excitement, scared out of my mind and grateful…truly, truly grateful.
Take a minute. This moment you are living in. At one point in your life, you dreamed about it.
Maybe your dream doesn’t look like you imagined? Perhaps it’s come with a few more complications than you ordered (isn’t it funny how we act like that sometimes)… but still, at the end of the day, there’s so much to be grateful for.
At one point in your life, you dreamed about this moment. You are, in fact, living the dream. Enjoy it. Relish in the moment. Keep going. There’s more dreams to be had.
Photos provided courtesy of Erica Baker Photography
Sometimes you just have to go for it. Regardless of how you feel. You have to take the jump. You have to try. You have to dare to believe that there is more than what you currently see.
If you fail, you fail.
If you fly, you soar.
If you dare, you win.