5 Ways to Make Your 30s Flirty & Thriving

So I feel the need to preface this post by saying, that I really haven’t figured that much out just yet.  I simply know that I am loving being in my thirties and I thought I’d share some things I’ve learned thus far.  So without further ado, I give you…

5 Ways for Making Your 30s

1. Age Gracefully

And by that I mean don’t act your age. Just be yourself, whatever age that feels like.

Personally, I choose about 12.

Also, I’m pretty sure “gracefully” includes, flamingoes.

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2. Invest in Friendships

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Like the good kinds.  The friendships that let you be yourself, crazy and all.  Friendships that are not only fun but also challenging. Surround yourself with people you want to be like and that inspire you to be the best version of yourself.  Don’t hang out with people just because you want them to like you. Go for quality over quantity.

3. Stop waiting around. Go after your dreams.

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Remember all those days in High School when you would sit around, stare at the clouds and day-dream of all the amazing things you would do and see someday? Guess what?

Someday is NOW.

You’re never going to be 100% ready but at some point  you just need to go for it.  There’s no time like the present.

4. Adventure

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Don’t buy into the lie that your best years are behind you. NO WAY! There are so many new adventures out in front of you.  If you can’t see them then make them happen. Go on a trip. Take a class. Make a new friend. Learn a new dance (I recommend the dinosaur dance pictured above…it’s not for beginners though)

5. SPARKLE BABY SPARKLE

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Don’t be afraid to BE YOURSELF.  I’m sure you’ve heard the quotes a million times, but they’re true.  There’s no one else like you!

The world needs your unique sparkle.

Don’t waste time trying to be like anyone else.  Work hard to find out who you are and then don’t let go of that. You’ve got something special!

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All photos provided courtesy of Erica Baker Photography

The Thirties

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My dad used to tell me that life starts to get really good in your 30s.  I never really understood until I passed the mile marker myself. Now I can honestly say that you couldn’t pay me to go back to my 20s. I know “supposedly” I’m supposed to want to freeze time at 29 and celebrate that birthday for an eternity, but I don’t buy it. I’m a few years into my 30s and..

I FREAKIN love it.

It’s like I could exhale a deep breath when I reached my 30s.  Suddenly all the striving and trying to justify my existence in the world that marked my 20s ceased.

Did I magically figure it out? Umm… no.  

It’s just that there’s this sense of purpose and peace that has settled in. I know myself better. I’m more comfortable with who I am. I’m not as scared to speak my mind. I’m less afraid of what others think of me (still not immune, but it’s better). I’m excited about where I am in life (even if I don’t totally know where that is). As my dad promised, life is just getting good.

So to all my sisters in your 20s, enjoy the ride! Live with abandon. Go on the adventures. Just know that the party really gets started in your 30s.  There’s no ticking time bomb. Your life doesn’t stop at 30. It just keeps gets better.  Can you imagine if it’s this good in your 30s, how much more amazing it will be in your 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond?

The ways of right-living people glow with light; the longer they live, the brighter they shine.” Proverbs 4:18

BREAK OUT THE SUNGLASSES BABY!

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Birthday Brunch


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I believe in birthdays.  I believe in celebrating. I don’t care how old you are.

Throw some glitter. Make it rain!

That’s my motto. Figuratively of course, have you ever tried to get glitter out of carpet? IMPOSSIBLE!

Anyways, a few weeks ago, I celebrated my birthday with amazing friends, cupcakes, sparkle and lots of Valentine’s Day goodness! It was so wonderful!

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I’m so grateful that I have these amazing women (and one random flamingo) in my life!

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Thanks for making my birthday so special!

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Photo credits go to my wonderful friend, Erica, of Erica Baker Photography.

 

IMPOSSIBLE IS NOTHING : 5 Steps to Turn Your “I Can’t” into “I Can”

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Ah the new year! So fresh with possibilities and newness. Is it just me or does the air smell different on January 1?  There’s so much possibility in each breath. It’s amazing how in one stroke of the clock I become convinced that I can leap small buildings in a single step and suddenly love leafy greens with a burning passion.  Somewhere in about that second week of January, however, that burning love affair with broccoli starts to wane. I don’t know about you, but right about now, I start getting hit with two little words.

I CAN’T

They barrage my subconscious until I’m pretty much ready to call it a day and curl up with my favorite blanket, a box of wine (swirly straw sold separately) and every Netflix marathon ever made. All my wonderfully laid plans start to unravel. I realize that I’m still me with all my hang ups, insecurities and inadequacies AND I’m still not a fan of broccoli.

It’s not a fun revelation. The temptation to crawl back under the covers and go back to la la land indefinitely is almost too much to bear. Here’s the thing though, even in the midst of my finest sulks, there’s this pesky little verse that I learned as a child that keeps coming back to me. Gah!

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!” – Philippians 4:13 

Thanks to Mr. Donut Man I will never be able to forget this verse. Follow this link for a trip into my childhood. You’re welcome!

While there may be any number of things that you (and I) feel inadequate to tackle, the truth is you were never intended to face them on your own. The key in that verse is the “through Christ” part.  When you invite him into your life He actually takes you up on the offer.  He moves in and starts helping you tackle even the hardest obstacles.  Why you might ask? Because He’s God and He’s cool like that.

So in the midst of all my spectacular spirals over the years, God has shown me a few things that have helped change my can’t into a can.

Here’s 5 quick (please note I didn’t say EASY) steps:

1. Take a personal survey

Ask yourself, “What am I listening to?”.  Is the voice that tells you that you can’t louder than the voice that says you can? Are you spending more time thinking about the negative what ifs instead of the positive what ifs?  I’m not talking about living in a dream world, but I’m talking about facts.  It’s been proven that what you think about over and over effects what you become. In Hebrews 4, we have the example of Abraham who they say recognized (HE RECOGNIZED SON) that his body was as good as dead BUT (I like big BUTS and I cannot lie) He believed that HE who had promised is faithful. He believed that he would have a son at like bazillion years old. Spoiler alert: He got one!

So all I’m saying here is make sure you’re feeding the voice that says you can. Spend time with the one who put the dream in your heart to begin with. He’s got a plan to unfold it too.

Want to hear more about this point? Check out this great message, entitled ‘The Struggle is Real” from one of my pastors.

2. Set realistic goals

Awesome, so you’re telling me you already set AND broke all your New Year’s Resolutions.  Well done you! You’re not alone. Here’s a thought, how about you go set some more. I wrote a post about setting SMART goals last year and it still applies.  Make sure the goals you set are Specific, Measurable, Assignable, Realistic, Time-related.  Here’s the kicker though, DO IT ON A TUESDAY AFTERNOON. Don’t wait until the new year or even a Monday. Do it now!

3. Take Baby Steps

Recognize and celebrate the little wins. Baby steps are still steps. You don’t have to be perfect. In fact, there’s no way you will be. You were born human. You will die human. You are not perfect. The end.

4. Make Friends

This relates to point numero uno, surround yourself with people who say (and believe) that you can. Give those people air time. Your time is valuable. Don’t give people time who fill your space with negativity.  Even if they’re not telling you that you can’t, if all they do is talk negatively, I want you to take two simple steps. Step one: Slam the door. Step two: Yell “BYE FELICIA!” Done and done.

5. Take a break (DANCE PARTY!)

Lastly, give yourself a break.  Figuratively AND literally.  Close the laptop. Put away the checkbook.  Get off the elliptical. Take a break.  Preferably a DANCE PARTY break. Dust off your best dance moves and go to town. Whether you realize it or not, you are actually doing it. You’re pursuing that dream. You’re kicking those goals in the face, baby step by baby step.  That deserves to be celebrated.1527076_10102838762678684_1832303073579197706_n

Might I suggest this song? Miss Iggy and the God of the entire universe agree on this point…

IMPOSSIBLE IS NOTHING!

Bring it on 2015!
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Hustle & Heart

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Here’s to going after your dreams, whatever they might be! Don’t you dare settle for anything less than the best. You were created for a purpose. There are big things that await you. Don’t be afraid to work hard. Don’t be afraid to wear your heart on your sleeve. You’re going to make it.

Just keep going.

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Change

I’ve been trying to figure out where to pick up here on the blog.  It’s been awhile and honestly I haven’t known what to say. I love sharing life with you here on the blog, but then sometimes life gets out of control and honestly I don’t want to live it, let alone share it. I posted this on instagram awhile back and it’s absolutely the truth.  That post in all it’s glory was all I have written for a few weeks.

“Dude. Change is hard…”

It might as well have been written by my good ol’ friend, Captain Obvious.  No duh, change is hard. If the 90s are coming back can I say that again?

Change sucks. It usually makes me cry a lot.  It tends to make me retreat. The last few weeks have included a lot of change for me.  While I know that it’s the right change and on my best days I’m really, truly excited about what’s next, there are still times when I get caught up in the sadness of what I’m losing.

I’d like to say that I’m great at change, that I revel in it or that I’m a #boss at change. I’d like to regale you with stories of how I’ve been crushing it in life over the last few weeks but unfortunately most stories would end with me in the fetal position under a pile of boxes. I can say that I’ve survived, not with a whole ton of dignity, but I’ve survived.  Much thanks to the most amazing friends in the world and a God who just won’t seem to give up on me.

The thing I’ve actually been learning in the midst of it all though is this. Change doesn’t really suck.  It’s actually really awesome when you look at it right.Better by Change

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Yes, it hurts, but it’s kind of like resetting a bone that’s dislocated. It’s setting things right.

Yes, it takes things away from you, but it makes space for what’s new.  Often times, it’s better.

Yes, it can make you feel insecure but it’s much like the feeling that comes with that shaky first step as you graduate from crawling (or in my case, scooting) to walking.

Yes, change changes things, but isn’t that the point of life.  Should we be constantly growing, evolving and moving forward?

If you’re not changing then you might want to check, because I think you might be stuck.

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Living the Dream

When I was little I dreamed about being all grown up and living on my own in a house that looked a lot like the castle from Candy Land.

I used to dream about NEVER having to go to school again.

I used to dream about waking up each day and going to work (ah! I was so innocent) and supporting myself (Thank you Destiny’s Child for glamorizing the thought of paying my own bills).

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I used to dream about living with my best friends, singing, traveling the world, and starting my own business…

This is the crazy part though.  It’s happening you guys!   Even on the most stressful days when I can’t tell which way is up, I’m reminded that I once dreamed about these moments. I couldn’t be more overwhelmed with excitement, scared out of my mind and grateful…truly, truly grateful.

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Take a minute.  This moment you are living in.  At one point in your life, you dreamed about it.

Maybe your dream doesn’t look like you imagined?  Perhaps it’s come with a few more complications than you ordered (isn’t it funny how we act like that sometimes)… but still,  at the end of the day, there’s so much to be grateful for.

At one point in your life, you dreamed about this moment.  You are, in fact, living the dream.  Enjoy it. Relish in the moment. Keep going. There’s more dreams to be had.

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Photos provided courtesy of Erica Baker Photography